IMPORTANCE OF FESTIVITY AND CELEBRATION

IMPORTANCE OF FESTIVITY AND CELEBRATION

Life is all about happiness and as human beings, social interaction with our fellow beings not only brings happiness but helps us grow our capacity to learn, familiarise ourselves with cultures, inquire, think, play and work.

In the chaotic and stressful planet we inhabit, happiness is overshadowed by negativity and insecurity and so the need for something that could bring positivity has been felt time and again. Thus, festivity and celebration gives the opportunity to forget all the worries and celebrate the positive side of life.

Celebration is an act of expressing reverence or appreciation. It is a confrontation, giving attention to the transcendent meaning of one’s actions.

The various festivals and celebrations form an integral part of the Indian culture. Celebrations just do not offer people a temporary reprieve from the daily grind, but also play a vital role in binding the people together and create a strong relationship of humanity through bonds of love, mutual respect and regard. It plays an important role to add structure to our social lives. Festivity brings convergence; it helps to instil happiness amongst the people and contributes immensely to feelings of social cohesion.

Celebrations can also manifest themselves in the form of expression of art, culture, heritage and traditions and is also a very strong medium to display the above, therefore, finds vital spot in the life of people.

Therefore I again implore all to rejoice in this feeling of festivity and celebration, not only on special days but make each day a special one and add colours to this beautiful spectrum of life.

Mrs. Vishakha Gupta

Vice- Principal

SNBP Chikhali

My Teacher Thinks I’m Special

My Teacher Thinks I’m Special

Written by: Mary C. Howard

 

My teacher thinks I’m special.

It comes as no surprise.

She doesn’t have to say so.

I see it in her eyes.

 

She tells me all about herself,

Her family, friends and dreams.

That makes me feel important

She trusts me with those things.

 

She says I have potential.

She sees things others don’t.

She sees those things that I WILL DO,

And not the things I WON’T!

 

She puts her hand on top of mine,

And tells me, “Way to go!”

“You can do it! “Try again!”

“I’m proud of you, you know!”

 

It’s not my fault, it’s really not,

There’s three ways to spell “TO”.

With choices always facing me,

I don’t know what to do.

 

Sometimes I can’t spell anything,

My fives are upside down.

Two plus two makes three. I think!

I turn ‘b’ and ‘d’ around.

 

The rules all have exceptions.

You can’t depend on those.

The letters can say anything.

What is that word – WHO KNOWS?

 

I guess that when you’ve learned to read

It’s easy to forget.

It really is quite difficult

When you haven’t learned how yet.

 

My teacher tells me stories,

Sets the words and pictures free.

And while I’m learning how to read,

She reads such tales to me.

 

My teacher takes my hand in hers

And guides me on the way.

She knows I’ll read in my own time …

Though maybe not today!

 

My teacher thinks I’m special,

Unique and very bright;

A shining star in my own way.

Know what?

I KNOW SHE’S RIGHT!

Shared by Mrs. Vishakha Gupta

Vice Principal- SNBPIS Chikhali

How to Tune-out Distractions and Focus on Studies

Various distractions pose a serious threat to learning productivity. While a couple of minutes here and there spent on social media or other activities seem innocuous at first, the amount of time actually spent on things that are not essential add up to precious hours that could have otherwise been spent productively on learning tasks.

To help tune out the noise and focus on studies, I’ve put together this helpful list of tricks and tools.

  • Develop a routine and stick to it.

Without a set schedule, life can become chaotic. To prevent chaos from overrunning priorities, adopt rituals in daily and weekly routines. By closely following the rituals that have been set,   focus and better work can be maintained. Rituals that make up the daily routine can be evolved using different techniques and practices.

Quick Tip: Don’t forget to set self-study time into the schedule.

  • Find the right place to study or work.

Picking the right place to study is crucial because it has a major influence on the efficiency of the learning process. While studying in the room, distraction by TV, video games, or a magazine lying next to the bed may occur. Be sure to find a quiet and well lit place. It is a good idea to make sure that the chair and desk are ergonomically designed for greater productivity if planning on spending long hours working or studying. A bad physical setup can mess up both the posture and work efficiency.

  • Turn off all electronic devices.

While everyone loves tablets and smartphones, these gadgets expose a world of distractions. Ironically, many of these devices were meant to save time but they end up wasting valuable time instead. For many people, cell phones have become the “new best friend” that enables them to see what everyone is up to. Even if the smartphone is not actively accessed; notifications, texts, and incoming calls would be a major distraction.

The bottom line is that the mobile device is the enemy of productivity, therefore, make the study space and time a gadget-free zone.

  • Establish priorities.

Strategize & prioritize what’s important and plan the day. Keep not one, but two to-do lists. One is a master list of all high level priorities, and the other, a daily to-do list. A “Not To-Do” list, can track time-wasting activities that should be avoided. Remember, multitasking is counter-productive. Don’t do it!

  • Visualize with paper.

In many contemporary classrooms, tablets and computers are beginning to replace pen and paper for note-taking. However, ditching the keyboard and writing out the notes by hand is always an advisable option. It is more engaging and provides a means for visualizing ideas, and questions.

  • Shut down other windows.

While engaged in course material, studying, or practicing lesson concepts, it is of paramount importance to be diligent in blocking out the potential distractions. For those who lack the self control needed to ward off digital distractions.

  • Know when to say “No.”

While learning something new and exciting, it’s easy to take on a lot but doing so sometimes abruptly leads to situations wherein one finds oneself intensely busy yet facing the dilemma whether to fit other related activities in the already tight schedule.

When taking on new work, make sure that these activities serve the higher purpose. Start saying NO to activities that complicate the schedule, suck up time, and create stress. On the other hand say YES to activities that simplify life, reduce stress, and create more time.

  • Set reminders.

In any endeavor, it becomes very easy to forget stuff as one gets busier. It often happens that people become so engrossed on what they are doing that they lose track of time, therefore, it is important to set reminders and work as per plan.

  • Schedule distractions.

As the famous saying goes, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” The fact is, working without breaks will do far worse. It can get real tiring and burning out while studying the subject, abruptly preventing further progress in the learning track. To avoid burnout, set regular breaks into the schedule and think of them as rewards for hard work, to keep fresh and alert. Make sure to also schedule “me” time or time with loved ones in the evenings and on weekends.

  • Reflect and adjust.

Closely monitor the schedule on a daily and weekly basis and make adjustments. Also, regularly ask the following questions:

  • What is my main goal?
  • What is my goal for the week?
  • What do I need to do today?
  • Where am I at the moment?
  • Is this technique/schedule working?
  • How can I improve it?

I hope these tips help you to improve study and work efficiency.

By Mrs. Vishakha Gupta (Vice Principal- SNBP Chikhali)

Indo-Pak Relations – Should We Engage in Peace Talks or Ramp Up Counter-terrorism Operations?

Terrorism

India and Pakistan are two important countries in the South Asian region and share a long and complicated history with each other. The tension between them is deeply rooted in their common history. Their failure to reconcile their differences ultimately resulted in the partition of the sub-continent which too was the result of a legal and constitutional process.

Since then, they have not been unable to resolve their differences and develop a normal good neighborly relationship, which could have benefited either side. There have been several attempts to initiate a sustainable peace process, but most were either stillborn or abandoned in their infancy. Does it mean that the two countries are condemned to live in perpetual hostility? Can they overcome their historic rivalry?

Both the nations need to understand that there is no military solution to this, or we would have had one by now. Yet, the disharmony between the two major players has adversely affected the ability of South Asia. The continued insurgency, conflict and tension, along with a nuclear dimension, will not result in anyone’s benefit. The biggest beneficiaries of this prolonged conflict have been the extremist elements and certain world powers having geo-political interests.

The explicit possession of nuclear weapons by both India and Pakistan brings about the realisation that any conflict between them would have catastrophic consequences resulting in strategic instability.

Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. This is probably what the need of the hour is…….for both India and Pakistan.

Peace and stability are pre-requisites for economic development, trade and politico-socio-cultural relations. Avoidance of crises, prevention of conflicts, developing the confidence building exercise to alleviate the “trust deficit” and the building of mutual trust to strengthen bilateral relations; should therefore be common objectives for the two countries.

There is a huge potential for the expansion of bilateral trade between India and Pakistan resulting in economic prosperity. But other issues, such as non-tariff barriers to trade, removal of items on the Negative List, continued conflict over Kashmir etc, will have to be addressed before any positive move can be initiated towards increasing trade. This official transaction will also discourage illegal trade that at present costs the two countries substantial revenue loss.

The serious energy shortage faced by both countries is hampering their economic development and industrial output. It would be in the interests of the two countries to harness co-operation in the field of energy and possibly collaborate in the field of nuclear energy, in the distant future.

The efforts at building confidence and trust in order to seek resolution of disputes can bear fruit, only if it is sustained, and continues uninterrupted. The two countries will have to resist the disruptive forces by evolving concrete means to deal with them.

The international community can encourage and facilitate a peaceful dialogue between the two nations. Greater people-to-people contact and building a positive public opinion can help change perceptions, as people would get to see the other country as a living reality and not the monster of the news headlines. Impetus to music, art and cultural exchange programs can play an instrumental role in strengthening the ties and nurturing a deep sense of understanding and harmony. Friendly cricket and hockey matches along with other sporting events would positively boost  cordial relations.

There are many other costs: some measurable in currency—like the money spent on maintaining defence forces, setting up boarders and its upkeep, destruction of property, loss of foreign investment—and other costs not measurable in hard currency, the brunt of which is borne by the masses. Even in Kashmir, the degradation of the environment, loss of life, and the misery and poverty of refugees denies the basic human dignity and rights to people.

Therefore, the world’s most dangerous conflict must and can only be resolved with third-party mediation and an intellectual and open minded intelligentsia, with the intervention of the world forum with an open minded approach, political grit and acceptance by the general masses of both the countries; forgetting the past incidences and initiating a fresh start.

To conclude we can only say that– It is not about perfection, It is about effort, and when you bring about that effort every single day, that’s when transformation happens, that’s how changes occur….

By- Mrs. Vishakha Gupta

SNBP International School, Pune

(PUBLISHED ON THE INDIA FOLKSWEBSITE)

KEEP UP WITH WHAT ONE LOVES

Look around and you can see many perturbed faces!!!

Being part of the education system I am familiar with all sorts of expressions which appear and wane in a jiff. It varies from an innocent smile of a kindergartener to a canny look of a senior most student. At present, I am thoughtful about the discontent that I can sense around me.

Exams are over, papers are shown….all have made promises (these promises are in affinity to the theory of survival of the fittest) …some are really happy to keep up their promises and some are disheartened as they can’t keep up their word.

My thoughts lingered around those children who failed to keep their words. Do we need to consider it as a fatal mistake?  To me… it is NOT. Education is not only about Marks and percentage but it is about identifying one’s potential and channelizing it appropriately. Children are gifted with many talents and pursuing one’s passion gives one delight. We need to educate our parent and students about this aesthetic pleasure.  My thought should not in any context belittle the value of education. Education enables us to dream, it paves a clear path to fulfil that dream. Moreover, the light procured through education will never be extinguished.

We have to mold our children in such a way that they should feel proud for establishing an incredible rapport with their teachers and parents. Always encourage them to chase their dream because we need to teach them to KEEP UP WITH WHAT THEY LOVE.

Fine Art Day – Your talent is god gift to you

What you do with it is your gift back to God.

An auspicious day is a harbinger of happiness. SNBPIS, Morwadi organized

“Fine Arts Day” to identify the hidden reservoir of talent among students. Our pursuit is to kindle the joy of learning by assimilating students’ choice and talent into the curriculum. Learning has to be fun and it becomes fun only when it nurtures the actual requirement of a student.

We have witnessed an exemplary culinary skill exhibited by students. 32 pairs of participants more than 60 dishes… each dish tickled the taste buds and craved for more. What made our eye to protrude is their skill to garnish their dishes. Participants were conscious enough about the nutritious value, importance of hygiene and how can one show negligence to savour! Within a span of 90 minutes, a feast was ready.

 Mother’s Love was the theme given for Rangoli. Our concern was related to the depiction of the theme. The purity, the sweetness, the anguish various emotions concealed in mother’s love was portrayed. The students were lauded for their choice of colours. The judges showered the participants with praises.

Our intention was to imbibe in them the quality of teamwork and team spirit. Such sort of activities involves and encourages interaction and exchanges of ideas and actions. We are not bothered about the result as we achieved our vision ….TO BE A TEAM PLAYER AND LEAD. Hence, we stress on an auspicious day is a harbinger of happiness.

Different Parenting Style

parenting style is a psychological construct representing standard strategies that parents use in their child rearing. Parenting style can affect everything that a child does, feels and grows up to become and believe, so it’s important to ensure one’s parenting style supports healthy growth and development

Parenting styles can be classified into four distinct types. Each style has a different take on what a parent’s role should be in a child’s life.

Authoritarian Parents

Do any of these statements sound like you?

  • When it comes to rules, it’s “my way or the highway.”

  • You don’t take your child’s feelings into consideration.

If any of that ring true, you might be an authoritarian parent. Authoritarian parents believe kids should follow the rules without exception.

They allow kids to get involved in problem-solving challenges or obstacles. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences with little regard for a child’s opinion. 

Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time but, they may develop self-esteem problems. Children raised using this type of parenting may have less social competence because the parent generally tells the child what to do instead of allowing the child to choose by him or herself.

Children of authoritarian parents may become hostile or aggressive and may grow conditioned to lie to avoid punishment.

Authoritative Parents

Do any of these statements sound like you?

  • You explain the reasons behind your rules.

  • You enforce rules and give consequences, but you take your child’s feelings into consideration. 

Authoritative parents, establish clear rules. But, they allow for reasonable exceptions to the rules.

They use positive discipline to prevent behaviour problems and to reinforce good behaviour. So they may be more likely to create reward systems and praise good behaviour. They set clear standards for their children, monitor the limits that they set, and also allow children to develop autonomy.

However, when punishing a child, explain the motive for their punishment. Children are more likely to respond to authoritative parenting punishment because it is reasonable and fair. They tend to be happy and successful. Also, they are more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on their own.

Permissive Parenting

Do any of these statements sound like you?

  • You set rules but rarely enforce them.

  • You don’t give out consequences very often.

If those statements sound familiar, you might be a permissive parent. Permissive parents are lenient. They often only step in when there’s a serious problem.

They’re quite forgiving and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids.” Permissive parents usually take on more of a friend role than a parent role. They often encourage their children to about their problems, but they usually don’t put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behaviour.

Kids who grow up with permissive parents tend to struggle academically. They may exhibit more behavioural problems as they don’t appreciate authority and rules. They often have low self-esteem. They’re also at a higher risk for health problems, like obesity, because permissive parents struggle to limit junk food intake.

Uninvolved Parenting

Do any of these statements sound familiar?

  • You don’t ask your child about school or homework.

  • You rarely know where your child is or who she is with.

If so, you might be an uninvolved parent. Uninvolved parents basically expect children to raise themselves. They usually don’t devote much time or energy into meeting children’s basic needs.

They lack knowledge about child development or are simply overwhelmed with other problems.

Children in this case may not receive much guidance, nurturing, and parental attention.

Such children struggle with self-esteem issues. They tend to perform poorly in school. They also exhibit frequent behaviour problems and rank low in happiness.

 

OTHER PARENTING STYLES

Narcissistic parenting

A parenting style affected by narcissism. Such parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and may be especially envious of, and threatened by, their child’s growing independence.

Slow parenting

Encourages parents to plan and organize less for their children, instead allowing them to enjoy their childhood and explore the world at their own pace.

Toxic parenting

Poor parenting, with a toxic relationship which results in complete disruption of the child’s ability to identify themselves and reduced self-esteem.

Dolphin parenting

A parenting style providing a balance between the strict approach and the lack of rules and expectations. Dolphin parents avoid over scheduling activities for their children and refrain from being overprotective.

Ethnic Minority parenting

This parenting style was coined out of Authoritarian parenting and it is characterized by exceptionally high academic achievements among children from Asian backgrounds It is highly responsive towards children’s needs and maintains high demands.

IN A NUTSHELL

Children go through different stages in life; therefore parents create their own parenting styles from a combination of factors that evolve over time as children begin to develop their own personalities.

Sometimes parents don’t fit into just one category, however, that authoritative parenting is the best style. And there are always things that can be done to become a more authoritative parent

With dedication and commitment to being the best parent you can be, you can maintain a positive relationship with your child while still establishing your authority in a healthy manner. And over time, your child will reap the benefits of your authoritative style.

COMMON CONFLICTS BETWEEN CHILDREN AND PARENTS-

Here’s a list of common sources of conflict between parents and their children:-

Cell phone use, noise, boyfriend/girlfriend, type of music, religion, grades, chores, messy room, disrespectful behaviour, dishonesty, allowance, fairness, clothes, tattoos, hairstyles, diet, how to spend money, getting rides to places, what to eat, 

FACILITATING REPAIR

  • Step one: Be aware of your own emotion

If you are not comfortable with your emotion, you will have a hard time giving your children permission to express the full range of their emotion. Do you over react to situations that seem out of your control? Being able to focus on your own experience and that of your child is a central feature of effective repair.

  • Step two: Initiate repair with your child

Learn and respect your child’s style for processing and reconnecting. In order to begin the process of repair you must resist the urge to blame. By taking the lead you give your children permission to express themselves.

Step three: Listen carefully to your child’s thoughts and feelings

Encourage them to express how the experience of the conflict felt to them. Allow them to express the full range of feelings. Do not judge or counter their expression. Do not defend yourself. Join with your child emotionally by reflecting back what you hear about his experience of the events.

TO SUMMARIZE:

Every parent wants to hold their child close to protect them and keep them safe. And every child wants to break free of their parents hold, going out into the world to discover, explore and learn. Each is pulling the other in the opposite direction.

Understanding that parents have this desire for safety, security, success and survival of their children explains half of the equation and half of the conflict between parent and child.

The art of peaceful parenting is honouring children’s need for freedom and exploration while teaching children to be safe. Peaceful parenting means teaching the child how to responsibly handle ever increasing freedom.

Funnily, when parents are confronted with the downsides of this competitive and anxious nature of parenting, the most common response is:

But I just want my child to be happy!”

Winning a Nobel prize or an Oscar? Becoming the CEO of big company or a wealthy entrepreneur? Getting elected the next president or secretary general? None of these can guarantee happiness for every single person. That is why we can’t expect to have one route for our children to take, or one definition for “success” and “happiness.”

Happiness and success, then, are perhaps the biggest and most unfair expectations we place on ourselves, and more importantly on our children. Maybe the best thing we can do for our children is to accept them as they are, and support them as they grow into the people they are destined to become.

It makes more sense that our role as parents is to be there for our children, to protect them, to offer guidance, and to love them unconditionally. If we followed our hearts and instincts, is it not possible that things like success and happiness would take care of themselves?

-By Mrs. Vishakha Gupta (Vice Principal- SNBP Chikhali)

Parenting is a Beautiful Art

Parenting is a beautiful art which evolves with experience. Incidentally, it is our own
child who nurtures our skills at it. Every child is Precious and unique. So, the
journey of Parenting also varies for every child. There shall always be an exclusivity.
in the whole process. There is no junior or senior on this journey. All of us start from
the first page. However, despite the difference, the vagaries of nature, of the environment, one always experiences a great sense of gratification.
A child is crying, is trying to learn her numbers with a parent constantly scolding and
hitting: Disgusting, isn’t it? This video has gone viral showcasing a derogatory act of
parenting. In spite of all clarifications, the question still arises ‘Does the child REALLY
need to go through this?’ NO, she doesn’t.
Parenting is the easiest thing to have an opinion about but the hardest thing to do. We are
often lost with the ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ in what we do to our children. We naturally adapt
to the ways our parents raised us. At times, we choose new ways that we would wish, we
had been showered with. However, this new generation brings in a range of new
concepts, thinking, competitions, new demands, and almost a whole new world. In
wanting to have children, disciplined and orchestrated well behaved, parents go extra
length in their do’s and don’ts, where invariably the don’ts outnumber the do’s.
We need to remember, our kids don’t always learn what we teach – but learn by
watching US all the time. We are their role models. What we tell them is what they tell
themselves. Leading by example is then mandatory.
Parents need to feel blessed to be bestowed the responsibility of upbringing of an
individual.
Love and celebrate your child’s presence in your life and express your heartfelt
gratitude to the Creator to have chosen you to partner with for the DIVINE
CREATION !!!

How to support your children during exam

Dear Parents,
Next 15 days are going to be crucial for children as well as you too.
Lot of mood swings, sadness, enthusiasm, relaxed behaviour etc can be expected from the children.
Let’s support our children. ..
How you can do that?
Some simple tips which can be implemented from your end, to help your child cope up with the stress.
1..Please wake them up in the morning with a positive stroke, a touch/ hug  which a child expects from his parents.
2.. Start your child’s day with a positive statement – I love you, come let’s start this beautiful day together etc
3.. Take care about the communication you have with your child, before she/he leaves for his exams. I am sure you will excel, I am sure you will give your best, all luck to you, I will be waiting for you to come back my dear……etc
4.. Do not let your anxiety pass on to your child. Whatever the situation is, last moment positive support from your end will give a boost to your child’s confidence
5..When the child comes back, please avoid asking only how was the exam, instead ask….how was the experience….
Let’s unwind for the day, let’s go out for sometime / let’s have a cup of coffee together etc
Avoid talking about the subject.
Gone is gone…you can’t alter that but atleast you can support the child for the coming one.
6.. Please ensure that a very happy and healthy atmosphere is given to the child in the house during his exams.
7..Please play soft instrumental music while the child is having his breakfast or relaxing with you
8..Avoid giving marks target to the child.
9..Keep fresh flowers in the house, that brings lots of positivity in the house
10..Avoid nagging for any reasons
11..With a positive stroke, make the child sleep..your two minutes will give him sound sleep for some hours, that will help the child to combat with the situation
12…Avoid advice pls, give the child his space
13..Stand by your child even if the exam has not gone as per your or his expectations..It’s ok…
14..Most important:
Lots of love to your child and
Yes – please be calm, be patient and all luck to you too , my dear parents.