Look around and you can see many perturbed faces!!!
Being part of the education system I am familiar with all sorts of expressions which appear and wane in a jiff. It varies from an innocent smile of a kindergartener to a canny look of a senior most student. At present, I am thoughtful about the discontent that I can sense around me.
Exams are over, papers are shown….all have made promises (these promises are in affinity to the theory of survival of the fittest) …some are really happy to keep up their promises and some are disheartened as they can’t keep up their word.
My thoughts lingered around those children who failed to keep their words. Do we need to consider it as a fatal mistake? To me… it is NOT. Education is not only about Marks and percentage but it is about identifying one’s potential and channelizing it appropriately. Children are gifted with many talents and pursuing one’s passion gives one delight. We need to educate our parent and students about this aesthetic pleasure. My thought should not in any context belittle the value of education. Education enables us to dream, it paves a clear path to fulfil that dream. Moreover, the light procured through education will never be extinguished.
We have to mold our children in such a way that they should feel proud for establishing an incredible rapport with their teachers and parents. Always encourage them to chase their dream because we need to teach them to KEEP UP WITH WHAT THEY LOVE.
What you do with it is your gift back to God.
An auspicious day is a harbinger of happiness. SNBPIS, Morwadi organized
“Fine Arts Day” to identify the hidden reservoir of talent among students. Our pursuit is to kindle the joy of learning by assimilating students’ choice and talent into the curriculum. Learning has to be fun and it becomes fun only when it nurtures the actual requirement of a student.
We have witnessed an exemplary culinary skill exhibited by students. 32 pairs of participants more than 60 dishes… each dish tickled the taste buds and craved for more. What made our eye to protrude is their skill to garnish their dishes. Participants were conscious enough about the nutritious value, importance of hygiene and how can one show negligence to savour! Within a span of 90 minutes, a feast was ready.
Mother’s Love was the theme given for Rangoli. Our concern was related to the depiction of the theme. The purity, the sweetness, the anguish various emotions concealed in mother’s love was portrayed. The students were lauded for their choice of colours. The judges showered the participants with praises.
Our intention was to imbibe in them the quality of teamwork and team spirit. Such sort of activities involves and encourages interaction and exchanges of ideas and actions. We are not bothered about the result as we achieved our vision ….TO BE A TEAM PLAYER AND LEAD. Hence, we stress on an auspicious day is a harbinger of happiness.
A parenting style is a psychological construct representing standard strategies that parents use in their child rearing. Parenting style can affect everything that a child does, feels and grows up to become and believe, so it’s important to ensure one’s parenting style supports healthy growth and development.
Parenting styles can be classified into four distinct types. Each style has a different take on what a parent’s role should be in a child’s life.
Do any of these statements sound like you?
When it comes to rules, it’s “my way or the highway.”
You don’t take your child’s feelings into consideration.
If any of that ring true, you might be an authoritarian parent. Authoritarian parents believe kids should follow the rules without exception.
They allow kids to get involved in problem-solving challenges or obstacles. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences with little regard for a child’s opinion.
Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time but, they may develop self-esteem problems. Children raised using this type of parenting may have less social competence because the parent generally tells the child what to do instead of allowing the child to choose by him or herself.
Children of authoritarian parents may become hostile or aggressive and may grow conditioned to lie to avoid punishment.
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You explain the reasons behind your rules.
You enforce rules and give consequences, but you take your child’s feelings into consideration.
Authoritative parents, establish clear rules. But, they allow for reasonable exceptions to the rules.
They use positive discipline to prevent behaviour problems and to reinforce good behaviour. So they may be more likely to create reward systems and praise good behaviour. They set clear standards for their children, monitor the limits that they set, and also allow children to develop autonomy.
However, when punishing a child, explain the motive for their punishment. Children are more likely to respond to authoritative parenting punishment because it is reasonable and fair. They tend to be happy and successful. Also, they are more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on their own.
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You set rules but rarely enforce them.
You don’t give out consequences very often.
If those statements sound familiar, you might be a permissive parent. Permissive parents are lenient. They often only step in when there’s a serious problem.
They’re quite forgiving and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids.” Permissive parents usually take on more of a friend role than a parent role. They often encourage their children to about their problems, but they usually don’t put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behaviour.
Kids who grow up with permissive parents tend to struggle academically. They may exhibit more behavioural problems as they don’t appreciate authority and rules. They often have low self-esteem. They’re also at a higher risk for health problems, like obesity, because permissive parents struggle to limit junk food intake.
Do any of these statements sound familiar?
You don’t ask your child about school or homework.
You rarely know where your child is or who she is with.
If so, you might be an uninvolved parent. Uninvolved parents basically expect children to raise themselves. They usually don’t devote much time or energy into meeting children’s basic needs.
They lack knowledge about child development or are simply overwhelmed with other problems.
Children in this case may not receive much guidance, nurturing, and parental attention.
Such children struggle with self-esteem issues. They tend to perform poorly in school. They also exhibit frequent behaviour problems and rank low in happiness.
OTHER PARENTING STYLES
A parenting style affected by narcissism. Such parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and may be especially envious of, and threatened by, their child’s growing independence.
Encourages parents to plan and organize less for their children, instead allowing them to enjoy their childhood and explore the world at their own pace.
A parenting style providing a balance between the strict approach and the lack of rules and expectations. Dolphin parents avoid over scheduling activities for their children and refrain from being overprotective.
Ethnic Minority parenting
This parenting style was coined out of Authoritarian parenting and it is characterized by exceptionally high academic achievements among children from Asian backgrounds It is highly responsive towards children’s needs and maintains high demands.
IN A NUTSHELL
Children go through different stages in life; therefore parents create their own parenting styles from a combination of factors that evolve over time as children begin to develop their own personalities.
Sometimes parents don’t fit into just one category, however, that authoritative parenting is the best style. And there are always things that can be done to become a more authoritative parent.
With dedication and commitment to being the best parent you can be, you can maintain a positive relationship with your child while still establishing your authority in a healthy manner. And over time, your child will reap the benefits of your authoritative style.
COMMON CONFLICTS BETWEEN CHILDREN AND PARENTS-
Here’s a list of common sources of conflict between parents and their children:-
Cell phone use, noise, boyfriend/girlfriend, type of music, religion, grades, chores, messy room, disrespectful behaviour, dishonesty, allowance, fairness, clothes, tattoos, hairstyles, diet, how to spend money, getting rides to places, what to eat,
Step one: Be aware of your own emotion
If you are not comfortable with your emotion, you will have a hard time giving your children permission to express the full range of their emotion. Do you over react to situations that seem out of your control? Being able to focus on your own experience and that of your child is a central feature of effective repair.
Step two: Initiate repair with your child
Learn and respect your child’s style for processing and reconnecting. In order to begin the process of repair you must resist the urge to blame. By taking the lead you give your children permission to express themselves.
Step three: Listen carefully to your child’s thoughts and feelings
Encourage them to express how the experience of the conflict felt to them. Allow them to express the full range of feelings. Do not judge or counter their expression. Do not defend yourself. Join with your child emotionally by reflecting back what you hear about his experience of the events.
Every parent wants to hold their child close to protect them and keep them safe. And every child wants to break free of their parents hold, going out into the world to discover, explore and learn. Each is pulling the other in the opposite direction.
Understanding that parents have this desire for safety, security, success and survival of their children explains half of the equation and half of the conflict between parent and child.
The art of peaceful parenting is honouring children’s need for freedom and exploration while teaching children to be safe. Peaceful parenting means teaching the child how to responsibly handle ever increasing freedom.
Funnily, when parents are confronted with the downsides of this competitive and anxious nature of parenting, the most common response is:
“But I just want my child to be happy!”
Winning a Nobel prize or an Oscar? Becoming the CEO of big company or a wealthy entrepreneur? Getting elected the next president or secretary general? None of these can guarantee happiness for every single person. That is why we can’t expect to have one route for our children to take, or one definition for “success” and “happiness.”
Happiness and success, then, are perhaps the biggest and most unfair expectations we place on ourselves, and more importantly on our children. Maybe the best thing we can do for our children is to accept them as they are, and support them as they grow into the people they are destined to become.
It makes more sense that our role as parents is to be there for our children, to protect them, to offer guidance, and to love them unconditionally. If we followed our hearts and instincts, is it not possible that things like success and happiness would take care of themselves?
You are the best
Someone whispered in my ears.
I looked around
And can only see my shadow.
I am tensed, I am petrified
I peeped within me
I can see a wick of examination lit at remote
Is that bothers me?
You are the best, you are unique
That’s just one of the milestones of your path
Wide spread path
The journey of life begins
And that wick is your lantern
Hold it tight, shield it from breeze
I looked around
And I can see my shadow
Let me kindle my confidence and saunter the path which I wish to
Ms. Ajitha. P. Nair
The changing rhythm of the seasons reminds us of the changes in life and in our bodies. Body weight (loss or gain weight) and hormones can be impacted by season changes. During this time of year, you may be at a higher risk of getting sick.
Going to the hospital can greatly impact your school performance. Therefore, why not try some tips to help your body adjust better to the changes so that you can stay vibrant and healthy during this time.
Drink plenty of water
There is less moisture in the air during winter so keep your water bottle close by. Hydrating your body can prevent cracks on the skin and get rid of toxins in your system. At least 8 to 10 glasses of water daily is generally recommended.
Boost your immune system
During cold and flu season, you can boost your immune system by eating raw fruits and vegetables that contain various vitamins and minerals. For example, vitamin C is an important vitamin and antioxidant that the body uses to keep you strong and healthy.
Always Eat Seasonal Food
Seasonal foods are in accordance with the nature. They naturally offer higher nutritional content than out of season unripe fruits and vegetables. It is beneficial to eat holistically for your health.
In Winter, turn toward warming foods like carrot, sweet potato, onions and garlic and some spices and seasonings such as ginger, pepper corns and mustard seeds. Eggs, corn and nuts also fall into this warming category.
Commit to exercise
Don’t let the cold weather stop you from moving! Exercise can help control your waistline since holiday feasts are almost there. Some indoor exercises such as yoga and other moderately activities after meals are also good choices of keeping your body active.
Hope everyone stays away from sickness and enjoys the beauty of the seasonal change!